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To Swipe Right or Left:That is the Question

He picks you up from your house at seven, you both enjoy a fancy dinner as you get to know each other better and the night ends with a kiss on the cheek— if he’s lucky. If you are younger than 30, you may be wondering what I’m talking about.

 Modern-day “dating” has transformed into an activity for casual hookups, sans the dinner. Apps like Tinder and Grindr appear to help you find your mate when what you’re really getting is a dirty pick-up line from a guy whose profile pictures are from his pre-beer belly days. Phrases like “wanna hang out” or “let’s chill” no longer mean going out for lunch or to a movie, they mean sex.

 Our society has become so focused on the next best thing that the desire to build true long lasting relationships has severely dwindled. Dating has become “talking,” which basically means that there is no loyalty. If he cheats on you, the phrase “we were just talking” is his get-out-of-jail free card. There is no commitment factor if it isn’t Facebook official.

 Our generation needs to get out of this sex-crazy, friends-with-benefits phase. Yes, dating can be awkward and hooking up with a friend may seem good enough. But just because it’s easy doesn’t mean it is the best decision. The focus should be on building deep connections with another person where sex is just a bonus, and dating is more than a sappy text message at one in the morning.

 Dating should not imply building a list of options based on physical attributes and Facebook likes. Besides, swiping your card for a meal on a date will most likely lead to more genuine matches than swiping right (yes) to a prospective hookup.

Story by Sierra Hancock

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